True Friends

I think everybody has some idealistic view on what the perfect friend would be like. But of course in reality people can never meet all of your expectations. I have personally had a lot of friends to come and go in my life. Mostly due to changes in location. Others I have lost along the way primarily because they didn't meet my expectations. For me a true friend is a person who is more than willing to share every single detail of their day or life and respectably listen when you are doing the same. A true friend shares their feelings regardless of whether or not they think it might hurt your feelings because the truth is more important. A friendship based on lies is worst than any enemy you could ever have. That kind of deceit is deep and corrosive. I think we can all relate to a frienship gone bad. What it all boils down to in my opinion is communication. Something said is generally better than something left unsaid. A true friend is also someone who can see past all your bullshit and call you on it. They also know the most intimate details and shadiest secrets you have and they still love you. One of my best friends can say the most blunt thing possible and it not be deemed as degrading or manipulative. She doesn't have a hidden agenda behind everything she tells me. Its based on her caring about me and what is best for me. I love her for being someone who doesn't lie to me. That is a true friend. Really I am not sure where this is going, but just something I wanted to throw out there. I think a lot of people today don't really know how to be a true friend and when things go wrong they blame them on everyone else or fate or some bullshit like that. Accepting responsibility can begin a healing process so maybe next time you won't be the one to fuck up. "Friend" or not, I think its important to not let someone make you feel like you are less of a person than them. Obviously if they are doing that, then they don't really care about you at all. You are only there to feed their ego. As it was once said in a movie I particulary like "I love that word 'relationship.' Covers all manner of sins, doesn't it?" Sometimes its just time to let go. Some people are more like a disease or a parasite than a friend. Okay enough.